pretty_panther posting in asexuality
Hi peeps. Now, while this article isn't abut asexuality as such, Captain Awkward responds to a letter from someone who isn't interested in a relationship right now and is attempting to find ways to get her friends to accept that and drop the subject. I know many aces get the you'll change your mind speeches and bemusement that someone might not actively seek a relationship. I found this article really good for tips on how to, basically, fob people off about the whole thing.
A lot of asexual (+ child-free!) folks get the smug “You’ll change your mind someday” treatment. Remember how you’re putting zero effort into convincing people or arguing with them? “Maybe I will. Life is long and full of surprises! But it’s not a priority just now.” + Change subject. I hate when people assume that you’ll change your mind about things you’ve said are important to you, and I hate it even more when the same people berate you for changing your mind about things and whip out the “I told you so” stick to beat you with. Consider this one more argument for not wasting effort on convincing people who would talk to you this way in the first place.