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[neekabe]

Hi all,

I do plan on doing some research on my own, but I'm hoping that someone can help me save some time. I'm looking for information/ideas/blogs etc about sexual people and asexual people in relationships. Not for me, for a friend (honest! :P).

I know I've read some things, but haven't noted it as I'm aromantic and introverted and so the compromises of relationships aren't overly relevant.

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[aceeccentric]

I wish I had more links on this but the only thing I have on hand is this conversation my girlfriend and I had on my blog, which may not entirely be what you're looking for. Also Tumblr is down, and with it, my link bank.

I think when I've seen people talking about ace/sexual relationships it's mostly been around the issue of consent, and the definition of "compromise" and whether to use that word at all. Are you looking for things like that, rather than personal accounts? I could root around in my blogroll (and when Tumblr comes back up) to see if I can find any of those posts.

[neekabe]

That is helpful, thanks! (and thanks for sharing that post initially).

The general situation is a sexual person is looking for info to get their head around their how to handle what was initially a sexual relationship, but needs to change due to newly awakened asexual partner.

Personal accounts are good, so are discussions of compromise that emphasize actual compromise (as opposed to the 'the sexual person's needs are paramount, and the ace ought to give the maximum amount of sex possible' type compromises that I see a lot, but mostly from sexual sources). I don't think they quite need the debates on the theoretical 'can an ace truly consent if they never want it' side. But toss me anything, more info never hurt a person :)

[magistrate]

I'm not sure how specific any of the stuff will be for you, but there are a good few conversation in the Asexual Relationships forum on the AVEN site. There's a thread on how far physically people enjoy going, and one on platonic relationships with sexuals, and one on how to compromise...