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[ex_pippin880]

Hey guys! I'm doing asexuality/aromanticism for the Frequently (or Not So Frequently) Asked Questions project and I've been asked something that I can't answer. Would anyone like to take it?

The question is:
What's your favourite and least favourite thing to read about asexuality in fiction?

And I... can't think of a single example of or reference to (textual/canon) asexuality in books/fiction I've read. :|

Comments

[angrboda]

Favourite: If a character is either or both and it's treated as if it's something normal, and not just as a way to get them away from their current 'wrong' partner and swept off their feet by the potential 'real' partner. Because to that character it is normal.

Least favourite: When asexual = frigid. It's not the same thing. Or the other being a bad lover, or it's not the 'right' partner or whatever. This can happen, yes, but it's not ALWAYS so. (And it's bloody difficult to be a fantastic lover when you don't really find it all that pleasant and occasionally slightly painful) Basically when asexuality/aromantisism is portraited as everything that's wrong with a relationship.

[angrboda]

I just realised the above is really just the same issue from both angles, the positive and the negative portrayal.

Eh, it's not something I look for in fiction anyway, so I don't really consider it if I come across it.

[ex_pippin880]

It seems like the worst things about how asexuality is treated in fiction are pretty much the same as the worst things how it's treated irl. Which makes a lot of sense, really.