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[ex_pippin880]

Hey guys! I'm doing asexuality/aromanticism for the Frequently (or Not So Frequently) Asked Questions project and I've been asked something that I can't answer. Would anyone like to take it?

The question is:
What's your favourite and least favourite thing to read about asexuality in fiction?

And I... can't think of a single example of or reference to (textual/canon) asexuality in books/fiction I've read. :|

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[jhumor]

Favorite: When Asexual relationships get treated like any other relationships. The Asexual(s) are treated no different because of their Ace-ness, etc. (Just because I'm an Ace, doesn't somehow mean I'm NOT a woman. I have no drive/desire for sex. So what? I still have friends and relatives. I still have RELATIONSHIPS, go to work, etc.)

Least: Asexuals are ONLY alien, actually 'celibate', had a bad 'love affair' and 'decided' to be asexual. They have some other 'not normal' attribute (IE: serial killer - weird person living in their parent's basement, etc.) or were raped, sexually assaulted, etc and therefore 'became Ace.'

The problem with finding examples: Aces are 1% of the world's population, so you can safely assume that most writing out there is done by Sexuals. Since Aces aren't understood by Sexuals (in the same way, that I as an Ace don't get the 'big deal' about sex), they write only from their sexual perspective. This isn't necessarily a problem in and of itself, but since Sexuals can't get what it is to be an Ace, their writing of us becomes a caricature of what it is to be Ace, rather than an in-depth 'get in their head' kind of approach to how Aces view the world around them.

The Parallel I draw is this: There isn't a lot of 'Disabled' fiction out there written BY those with disabilities. I've come across a FEW and let me tell you, the difference is STAGGERING! It's hard to describe, but there are just things that the disabled include in their writing that able-bodied people would never be able to, because they just don't know/wouldn't think it's a big deal to include the thought processes/physical actions. It's the same for Sexuals writing about Asexuality.