Due to the steps involved in transferring all the money to charity, it'll be clasing on January 1, so please go for it now if you're interested!
There's also a tumblr for it here!
In a week, I'll be 52 and am an asexual. Also a virgin both by choice and circumstance. Recently, a friend ask why I had no wife or children. Given the current state of my life, seeking out a wife would be contraindicated. As to children, I've never wanted any and, given the means by which you acquire them, I've no interest in making any of my own. One might say I'm childfree but not rabidly so. I think kids are okay for other people who want them but definitely not for me.
Anywho, my friend seemed dumbfounded that I have no family of my own. Parents and sibling died out some time ago. But I *do* have a family - the pitbulls here are my family. Granted they aren't human but they're family anyway.
So, how're y'all doing?
For those who are interested here is a brief description of the essay: An academic and personal exploration of asexuality and the asexual spectrum, this essay focuses on the complexities of human sexuality and sexual orientation and takes a look at how asexuality fits within the broad spectrum of human experience. An interdisciplinary work, the author weaves the history of the American LGBTQIA community, social science research, legal analysis, and individuals' stories to provide a powerful argument for the importance of visibility and community.
Please feel free to share the work as you wish. Much love and happy Asexual Awareness Week.
A lot of asexual (+ child-free!) folks get the smug “You’ll change your mind someday” treatment. Remember how you’re putting zero effort into convincing people or arguing with them? “Maybe I will. Life is long and full of surprises! But it’s not a priority just now.” + Change subject. I hate when people assume that you’ll change your mind about things you’ve said are important to you, and I hate it even more when the same people berate you for changing your mind about things and whip out the “I told you so” stick to beat you with. Consider this one more argument for not wasting effort on convincing people who would talk to you this way in the first place.
We invite everyone to the 2013 Asexy Valentines Fest! Valentine's Day is about affection, not sex; asexual and/or aromantic folks can enjoy the holiday too. This is an opportunity to celebrate love and romance for their own sake, outside the expectation of sexual consummation. All types of material are welcome -- fiction, nonfiction, poetry, artwork, music, etc. All fandoms (along with original content or crossovers) are welcome.
Posting is open from February 7-February 21 on asexual_fandom. Read full details here. Visit the Asexy Valentines collection on AO3; there are subcollections for fanworks from 2012 and 2013. Special thanks to verity for the banner, collection, and Tumblr post.
Art: ysabetwordsmith Nominate art! (0 nominees)
Fiction: ysabetwordsmith Nominate fiction! (4 nominees)
Poetry: kajones_writing Nominate poetry! (2 nominees)
Webcomic: ysabetwordsmith Nominate webcomics! (5 nominees)
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Patron: kajones_writing Nominate patrons! (4 nominees)
Eligibility period: January 1, 2012-December 31, 2012
Nomination period: January 1, 2013-January 31, 2013
Voting period: February 1, 2013-February 28, 2013
One of the awesome things about the crowdfunding business model is that it breaks the stranglehold of mainstream publishing. This encourages people to create and sponsor material about under-represented identities. What stories, poems, webcomics, etc. about asexual characters did you enjoy last year? Who posted prompt calls where you could ask for some aces? If you're a creator yourself, which of your patrons did the most to support your portrayals of asexuality?
Please drop by to nominate your favorite crowdfunded projects from 2013. Post about the award in any relevant venue to help alert more people.
Jack is an asexual vampire in the Donor House series. I asked for one because for these vampires, there's a sexual component to feeding, and I figured this would make for really interesting dynamics. It has. The first story about him is "Jack - An Asexual Vampire," already posted. There's a second part that hasn't been posted yet and is available for sponsorship. The new story is "Jack - Searching for Someone." Jack watches the sexual people kissing and wishes that he could find someone compatible with his own preferences. He's has a lot of disappointments but he keeps looking. I want to see how this develops, because he's in a high-traffic place with a good chance of finding the right person sooner or later. There's an echo post on the author's personal website where you can click a button to request a continuation of the story.
If you want to see more stories about asexual characters, this is a terrific project. kajones_writing has over a dozen series, mostly fantasy but some science fiction and horror. There are lots of opportunities to interact including prompt calls and character adoption. You can even name and describe new characters, if you take part in the credit system which is one of the perks for participation.
While asexual characters rarely appear in contemporary stories, they are quite a bit more common in mythology. So if you'd like to explore these ideas in writing, please keep Plunge in mind. It would be nice to see more aces and discussion of asexuality.
Today was my day to host. You can read my posts featuring "Queer Poetry" and "Some of My QUILTBAG Characters." It's a good way to find my ace characters, along with other flavors of queer.
Do you write or read poems about asexual characters, or other QUILTBAG options? Drop by poetree and comment on the posts. We love discussions.
I think there's a lot of potential for ace fanfic here.
There is a project on IndieGoGo, "Aether Dancer," fundraising for a steampunk webseries. This is an open source project, as I've described in a post on my blog, which means that folks are welcome to create characters and write or film things that will become part of the overall setting. The teaser trailer gives a glimpse of a world that's rebuilding civilization after a catastrophic meteor shower. I'm particularly intrigued by the clockwork constructs, one of whom is a crewmember on the airship Aether Dancer. If you have a little extra spending money, consider chipping in toward entertainment that's off the beaten path.
Are you tired of movies, TV shows, books, etc. where there are no asexual characters, or they're done wrong, or they're only there to die horribly or Discover That Sex Is Really Great? It's even worse with science fiction, which shows us different glimpses of the future, but often a future where many kinds of people aren't represented at all. So fix it. Create an asexual character in the Aether Dancer setting. In addition to humans, there are the clockwork people, who could quite plausibly be asexual. Then write a script or a story or a poem or whatever you do best. Shoot a scene, if you're into independent film. Even just dress up as your steampunk character -- it would be nice to see some characters who don't dress like centerfolds -- and take still pictures to share. Make a difference.
I've posted the followup report for the June 19, 2012 Poetry Fishbowl featuring the series Hart's Farm. So far there are four complete poems posted, and a fifth in microfunding where people can make donations to reveal new verses. The asexual character Rowen appears in "Comforters" (about caring for sick people) and "Behind the Red Robe" (about gender identity and conflict resolution). The poems already posted focus on community life and how people get along together. One of the unsold poems, "Who Stands Beside Me," also features the other asexual character Solvig as she helps a friend deal with his father's death. That one has a lot of nonsexual physical contact.
There is currently a poll open to distribute the general donations. Everyone is welcome to vote on what poetry should get sponsored.
This play is about the relationship that develops between an asexual tattoo artist and a client. I don't know if it's any good or not. I do know that I like encouraging folks to write about fresh ideas and about characters who don't get much representation. So I'm boosting the signal for this project in hopes that it will succeed.
So far there are two aces in the cast: Rowen is biromantic asexual genderqueer and Solvig is aromantic asexual. What kind of things would you like to see in portrayals of asexual characters that you're not seeing enough of? Cuddles, positive relationships, sexual friends who are understanding ...? Would you like stuff about sexual characters that's about something other than sex? Come ask for it. I'll do my best.